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Do you think parents should be allowed to use physical discipline on their children?

Yes, sometimes it's needed to punish them or change their behavior 82% 953 votes
No, children should not be hit under any circumstances 17% 205 votes
Total Votes: 1158

Note: This is not a scientific poll.

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March 26, 2009
12:27 p.m.

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HOPE (no real name given) says...

There is no justification for ever hitting a child. Hitting or spanking is violence. There are so many other proven methods of discipline.

March 27, 2009
4:18 a.m.

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mrmjs (no real name given) says...

Hope..what are the proven methods ? But then physical discipline if used rightly would deter but today parents (alot) do it out of anger rather then love !

But then I found a denial of priviledges works best, it teaches them if they do not do there responcibility they lose the special priviledge of what they like the best. Of course it is possible for the state and local government to step in and say, you can not do that! Why is it since we have because of the law and threats of child abuse did away with or shrinked back from this that children have become alot worse in there behavior ? Parents have to deal with the bad atitude or it will bet worse, and it is the sole responcibility for parents to administer the dicipline, no one else!

March 27, 2009
9:03 a.m.

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rltj2001 (no real name given) says...

This generation is different then any before it. In the past families were big, we had to learn to work with each other or life was just misearble. Now families are for the most part really small, children are often treated as though they were royalty and sadly it shows. There is no real ideal among young people of working with others and consequences. Simply put they are incredibly selfish. If a swat on the arse will get them realizing their actions have consequences and to regard someones feelings other then their own, or at least learn the art of negotiation, then swat away. If your child reaches 11 and still needs this, the kid needs help. Go find it.

March 28, 2009
6:32 a.m.

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Ground_Control (no real name given) says...

You want your kid to grow up to be a politician or Wall St. banker? Reward them for bad and irresponsible behavior!

March 28, 2009
9:28 a.m.

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sgtwarbucks (no real name given) says...

Both my now-adult children received swats on the backside if they got out of line. Neither of them have been in prison, been in fights, been abusive in relationships, been abusers of alcohol or drugs, or been disrespectful to their peers or superiors. Neither of them have beaten their children or their partners, or ended up on the streets. Neither of them have cheated on their taxes, and both of them always take responsibility for their actions.
Perhaps if more people prudently used a swat on the backside to correct their children's unacceptable behavior, we wouldn't have the issues that we have facing our country now.

March 28, 2009
12:28 p.m.

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sparklelace54 (no real name given) says...

when i was coming up getting spand did not make me a bad person. its depends on the method these parents use today. we got a good old swack on the butt. it darn sure didn't make us bad people. i don't believe in any child that get abuse, to the point of a child is hurt,or kill. when the law start changing in favor of the children, theese kids today, will use that against a parent. i have heard many kids, tell their parent, if you hit me, i will call child protection on you. how do a parent deal with that. i understand the law is protecting children from harm. when you have an out of control child, who is protecting that parent. its really a no win situation. abuse is one thing. a parent spanking their child, as long as it don't care a serious injury to that child is not that bad. some may agree and other may not. i am just expressing how i feel. we all are entitle to what our thoughts are on this. in the 50, 60, and early 70. there was no such thing as child abuse, as it is now. if it was, you know how many kids would of been remove from there home. if we did something wrong as a child, and another parent seen it, you may got a swat on the butt from them also. back them kids had more respect for adults then they do today. and it also depends on the parenting skills of that mother or father. we have to remember kids don't pick their parents, they are the innocent ones.

March 29, 2009
10:18 a.m.

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annarondac ( Patricia Ann Wadsworth ) says...

I just read another posting from a teacher who said children don't "sit with their hands folded, listening to the teacher" anymore. How can evolution change so drastically in 30 years? I've also noticed so much more swearing in public, loss of respect for elders from our young people. Could it be that parents are trying to be their childrens' friend instead of being a parent? The Dr. Phil method would not have worked in my family.

Just as there are many ways to discipline, a parent should have all the tools necessary. Every child is unique, different and special, but responsible discipline builds character, respect and good citizens.

March 29, 2009
5:08 p.m.

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HOPE (no real name given) says...

I'm not a Dr Phil watcher but seems to me that trying to teach your child right from wrong and self control is not accomplished by beating him with a belt. We don't know the whole story form one news report, but the parents sound like they need real help with this child. He will be an adult before long, he WILL be in real trouble if these behavior or emotional issues are not dealt with. I'd hate to see this family torn apart by this, and hope they reach out for professional help.

March 29, 2009
10:02 p.m.

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momof5 (no real name given) says...

I am in awe that over 80% voted "Yes". I am an adult survivor of child abuse. Physical!! The youngest of 4 children, we got "Punished" by an electric cord, belts, fists and lilac switches or anything else that was near. I am in therapy for what was done to me and finally confronted my "parents". Once I confronted them, I was told that that never happened. "I smacked you, but I never beat you". Finally was told that I was "blanking" crazy. The only thing I was looking for was validation. I am a forgiving person and have tried to move on. I just wanted my mother to say, I know that I beat you etc., and I am sorry, I tried to do the best job that I could, but I made mistakes. Then I could move on. But I am very angry that my mother is remembering a different childhood for all 4 of us.

So I can tell you first hand that Physical punishment should not be allowed under ANY circumstances. The scars last Forever. Thank you.

March 30, 2009
4:42 a.m.

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mrmjs (no real name given) says...

I beleive that different forms of discipline are needed for different actions, and though you would not discipline a child because you were abused as a child, it does not make a " swat" on the backside abusive if done in love and not anger, and I am sorry but no kid is an angel sort of speak.And what I see today of kids growing up is that they get there way and are spoiled rotten. They for the most part don,t appreciate much of anything and do not know how to manage there lives because of the lack of role models.
You will find that physical force is warranted by legal depts. as an alternative option with dealing with a child.
I find the term appreciate kids as a phrase that, give the kid what he wants and he will want more and appreciate less, I hope im wrong in my thoughts but I have seen to much of parents being friends of kids and having the kids being treated as equals to parents where the kids start to dictate to the parents what they are going to do whether the parents like it or not...very sad.

March 30, 2009
9:25 a.m.

litena12 (no real name given) says...
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March 30, 2009
9:37 a.m.

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rltj2001 (no real name given) says...

Goodness Hope, who ever said a belt. I am not out to break but to bring a lesson home, maybe activating the old brain box. Really what are the alternatives? You could play head games with the kid. Head games are withholding favorite items and your love in lieu of good behavior. Oh yea that’s not damaging. Treating a child like an adult and trying to reason with them. Considering the human brain doesn’t finish maturing until the age twenty- five and the system that controls reasoning and judgment doesn’t fully mature until the early twenties, hey that makes sense too, not. Bribery is another alternative, and you know it often works, of course the long run affects of the kid developing an attitude of “whets in it for me?” isn’t damaging either, once again NOT. Personally if I were a kid today, I would say, mom & dad just swat me and get it over please!

March 30, 2009
4:47 p.m.

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HobbesEsq (no real name given) says...

I am in my thirties and got spanked once by my father when I was about 6 and once by my mother when I was about 8. I never needed to be spanked again. The punishment was very effective, as the memory lasted and the lesson never needed to be repeated. When I have children, I will spank them, if appropriate.

There is a difference between spanking out of frustration or anger (abuse) and spanking to control behavior or for safety (discipline).

Frankly, I am surprised that only 80% believe that spanking can be appropriate.

Someone made a comment that parents try too much to be their kids best friend and that this has led to many of our current social ills. I wholeheartedly agree. A parent's primary job is to raise a responsible, moral, law abiding, self-sufficient adult. If the parent can be friends with the child, even better, but not at the sacrifice of respect for their self and others.

March 30, 2009
8:40 p.m.

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momof5 (no real name given) says...

Through the few years of therapy due to my Childhood abuse. I learned that the "Punishment" should fit the crime. I do believe that there are different forms of punishment. No "Head Games", I know that taking the computer or the phone is more of a punishment than to smack my daughters bottom. (she's a teenager now). My brother and sister and I still cry (they are in their 50's)to this day about the "punishment" that we got from our mother. We say to this day, that we can't think of anything we did that was so bad to deserve the beating's that we got as punishment. What are you saying to your child when you spank them? That their behavior was so bad that they deserved to be hit? I know people will disagree with me, but you cannot tell me that you can "calmly" spank or hit your child. That you are in control when you are doing that? I think if you can take a "time out" yourself, then calmly talk to your child to explain to them what they did wrong. Then, tell them what their punishment is.

March 31, 2009
11:03 a.m.

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wmarincic ( Bill METRO FORD - Marincic ) says...

I grew up in the age of corporal punishment. If you misbehaved in school, the teacher took you in the cloak room with a ruler and it worked. I knew that if I broke the rules my granfather was going to the lilac tree for a switch and I knew to follow the rules.

This PC crap where the children have the power over the parents is the reason that we have kids killing kids. If any of you Dr. Phil idiots think that kids are better today because of the no spanking way of child rearing, need your heads examined.

 

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